Tao Te Ching
As we see in Chapters 30 and 31, and elsewhere, Lao Tzu appears to feel that war is sometimes inevitable. When the war must be fought, he says it should be done with compassion and respect – an extension of the life the sage would counsel in peaceful times.
The Best Warriors
The great generals are not warlike
The great warriors do not get angry
Those who are good at defeating enemies do not engage them
Those who are good at managing people lower themselves
The great generals and leaders do not seek a fight or war. They are slow to go to war. The great soldiers do not go to war when angry
HO-SHANG KUNG says, “Those who honor the Way and Virtue are not fond of weapons. They keep hatred from their hearts. They eliminate disaster before it arises. They are angered by nothing. They use kindness among neighbors and virtue among strangers. They conquer their enemies without fighting and command through humility.”
Many of us have had the experience of asking for a raise. These are important words to remember when we do. Like the general we a not warlike. We choose a time for the conversation when there is no tension. ‘We wait until everyone is relaxed. The time not to ask for a raise is when we feel the pressure of the moment. We should be thinking of this as a discussion, not as confrontation. Don’t be angry about something. If we are asked to work overtime and we are angry, it is not the time to start the conversation which can turn into a battle, which we will loose regardless of the merits of our case. When we are upset we may say something we will regret. When we are angry at a minimum our thought process is clouded by our emotions.
What are we going to do if the boss challenges with something we consider to be stupid. Do not engage the boss. do not tell him he made a stupid remark or try to correct him. This is when he will stop listening, shut us out and we loose. If this is a good manager they will not act as if they are superior. they will listen and we will win. We need to manage the boss, we come in knowing we deserve the pay increase, but have a superior attitude, such as we are the best employee ever. We are challenging them. Most people will push back then we are not managing the situation.
Follow the ways of the great general and warrior and see what happens.
The Ultimate Principle of the ancients
It is called the virtue of non-contention
It is called the power of managing people
It is called being harmonious with Heaven
The ultimate principle of the ancients
We act with virtue when we follow the ways of the great general and the great warrior. The highest purpose is to act with virtue. (in Tao Te Ching the word Te is virtue) This is specific virtue is non-contention. Non-contention brings peace and understanding.
This way of being gives us the power of managing people. This is not forcing or ruling people but getting others to be with us as we discovered in Chapter 66.
This chapter teaches on of the way we become in harmony with the heavens or perfection. We realize after reading the Tao Te Ching that the book is very much instructions on how to live in Harmony,